| nutzy | Date: Wednesday, 2013-01-30, 20:48:49 | Message # 1 |
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| She Comes First
“I Like a Man wiith a Slow Tongue”
In a culture where everyone wants go down in history remembered for something, Ian Kerner wants to go down as the champion of going down.
The sex therapist has written She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, a sex manual for cunnilingus.
The average man can maintain genital thrusting for two and a half minutes before ejaculation.
But the average woman requires fifteen to eighteen minutes of persistent clitoral stimulation to have her first orgasm. That twelve-and-a-half-minute difference is a gaping maw of frustration on the part of women.
If women out there aren’t getting what they want from men, it may not be entirely the fault of the men. I have many female friends who shrug when the subject of cunnilingus comes up—they say they can take it or leave it, or it takes too long. Or even, dismissively, “I prefer sex”.
Kerner thinks women are part of the problem: “They have just as many hang-ups about receiving as men do about giving.”
He blames Freud, who scarred generations of women by defining “vaginal” orgasms as more mature than childish little clitoral ones. Seventies feminists refuted much of this, but in the eighties, the debate was renewed again with the publication of The G Spot.
In more recent years, the vagina has enjoyed a comeback as sex shops have begun selling G-spot vibrators and videos on female ejaculation through G-spot stimulation. Kerner is skeptical about all this.
He believes the G-spot is part of the clitoris and that a G-spot orgasm is a kind of clitoral orgasm. As for all those squirters, he points out that some say ejaculating has no positive effect on their pleasure.
For most women, it’s cunnilingus that does the trick but most men just don’t know how to do it.
“One of the biggest complaints I hear from women is, ‘I love it when my guy goes down on me, but it’s like the running of the bulls in Pamplona. It’s like a stampede for the clitoris, and I just want to get out of the way.’ ”
This is why so many men say they don’t have the energy for long sessions. “The men are too aggressive, and that leads to a lot of guys saying, ‘After three minutes, my tongue hurts. My neck hurts.’
“But that’s because they’re approaching it in the wrong way.” Kerner points out that the more you do it, the less time it takes. It’s something Ive discovered with the help of my own personal Clitoral Conqueror, my husband, Jake.
Kerner believes a book on going down is all the more necessary in the phallocentric era of Viagra. Before pills, men would get creative, something no longer required.
“A lot of women say these days that Viagra’s the worst thing that ever happened to them. It brings everything back to the penis and back to intercourse.”
sursa:
http://sexpornerotica.com/i-like-a-man-wiith-a-slow-tongue
"Unirea dintre barbat si femeie este precum comuniunea dintre Cer si Pamant, iar Cerul si Pamantul dureaza vesnic tocmai datorita acestei comuniuni perfecte. Oamenii au uitat acest secret, devenind muritori. Dar cei ce-l cunosc au deschisa in fata lor adevarata cale spre Nemurire" - Shang-Ku-San-Tai
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